A Mothers Depression – The Struggle from Inside
Any doctor will tell you that depression is a hard illness to come to terms with. Depression causes people to feel alone, it makes you feel like going into hiding, as if you should just climb up under the bed covers and disappear from reality, though its never that easy and hiding is never the answer.
So what causes this depression? That answer depends on who you speak with, some will tell you that there is one of a million different causes, while another person will tell you that they are unsure as to what causes it. One thing we do know for sure is that the world we live in can be a difficult place to wake each day. As mothers, many of us know all to well what effects depression can have on a family. Though we do not have the luxury of hiding, crying or wishing it away. No, we instead have to be strong, we have to make ourselves be better for our kids, our husbands, our family.
One mother can carry the wait of an entire family, career and world on her shoulders when her family is in the room and as they leave, its almost as if that same woman was weakest being on the planet. There were times when I found myself crying for hours on end and wanting to be left alone, even the idea of taking my own life came into my mind a few times, I never knew where to turn for help. When I tried to talk to my husband he told me to get over it, he didn’t understand that it jst wasn’t that easy of a thing to get over, how do you stop feeling as though you hate everything.
I kept telling myself that I needed to get some help, if for nothing more than so I could be around for my husband and my children. I love my family, they are my world and I didn’t want our family to crumble because I wouldn’t take the time to get the help that I needed. Eventually, I went to my doctor and explained to her how I had been feeling, how much I had been crying, not sleeping and how I just felt like everything was falling down around me. My doctor was able to give me some options as to what I could do to control this disease, I took her advice and went with a medication that, in a short amount of time, made my life a whole lot better.
These days I am nowhere near as emotional as I was then, I can actually sleep at night. One of my concerns was that my prescription would make me a little loony, not that I don’t like space cadets, I just don’t want to be one. Some people told me that the medication would have adverse effects, though in my case I have suffered from none of those.
It is a wonderful thing to know that I can now relax and enjoy life, because life is just so short. You never realize that until you actually live it. If any of you feel bad and want to hide from your life, I encourage you to take the time and see your doctor, allow someone to step in and help you just as I did. Allow yourself to live life to its fullest and never look back!
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March 18th, 2009
It can be hard for women. I am the one who stay’s at home, and I have my business. It’s miserable for my wife because she doesn’t get enough time with the kids, and it makes her feel as though she is failing as a mother.
Women are also very, very social creatures. If all they do is take care of the kids, who aren’t very good conversationalists by the way, a woman can go crazy. They need social interaction, friends, emotional connection.
That’s where most men fail to help. They don’t realize how much work taking care of a house really is, trust me, I know. They also tend to just kill those type of feelings in order to get past them. Women don’t work this way. They need to talk about it and work it out. We as men need to open up a little more and understand this and work with it instead of just telling her to get over it. She can’t. She isn’t wired that way.
But then again, men aren’t wired to talk about a problem. We are wired to either kill it, break it, or ignore it.